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All I can say is sometimes I find myself literally day dreaming of the day where we will say:
"Hey, remember those times when we were in quarantine...." and then chat about the life we lived "back then".
As I mentioned in Part 6, I want to rejoice when I look back on these moments because we will never get them again (or at least I hope NOT!). I also mentioned, all of this new normal makes us reflect on what we took for GRANTED only 79 days ago (and probably for much longer as time goes on). Who knows when we will get back to what we knew as "normal".... But my question today is: was that normal healthy? was that even a normal we want to go back to?
I talked a lot this week about: adapting to new realities and focusing on what we can control (in Part 1), being able to serve others and being a light of hope for them (in Part 2), the extra struggle extroverts are having (in Part 3), the joys of accepting the natural versions of ourselves (dans la partie 4), dealing with the mental consequences of quarantine (in Part 5) and coming out of this pandemic a victor or a victim (dans la partie 6). That being said, in each part written and recorded throughout the week, there has been SO much learning and SO much reflecting. Reflecting on the previous normal, the "new" normal and the normal we will be able to create in the future.
Considering WHAT our normal was and reimagining WHAT it will consist of in order to mold it according to what we have LEARNT about ourselves during these trying times is my final reflection, for the last part of my blog series.
HOW will the lessons in your rearview mirror affect WHAT YOU SEE IN DO when you're looking out your windshield?
Take time to recollect what you used to know as regular and as routine:
Where were you putting your energy? Was it in line with your values or were you simply in the hamster wheel? What do you miss the most about your ordinary life? But, what elements and lessons from these extraordinary times can you integrate down the road when all of the dust settles?
Now, we have all heard the saying:
but when it all passes, what matters the most is that we have learned;
as my friend Rafiki once said:
I don't think there's a better way to end this 7 part blog and podcast series than with a Disney quote! I can't even say it was planned because each day I sat down at my laptop with a few sentences, from the Notes on my phone, and a global idea of what I was going to write about. The best part was letting the creative juices flow out of me and simply write for pleasures sake.
I don't know when I'll come back to these thoughts and deliberations but it was really cool reflecting publicly for the past 7 days on my blog and podcast platform, for my own self and for you all!
Hey, you can do ANYTHING for a week, you should try it out, you got lots of time!
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Avertissement : Dans cet article, on utilise le terme « victime » pour décrire une personne ayant une certaine attitude face à notre situation actuelle de confinement. En aucun cas est-ce qu'on ne parle de gens victimes de la maladie du coronavirus et je ne veux surtout pas alléger la gravité médicale de notre contexte. Certaines personnes et leurs familles vivent de chose bien pire que le confinement. Notons que les gens atteints de la maladie qui s'en sortent sont aussi de grands vainqueurs.
Vous êtes-vous déjà posé la question: qu'est-ce que je vais ressortir de cette pandémie? Moi, je dois vous avouer que je me la pose souvent. Ma réponse est habituellement: je veux en ressortir avec une appréciation pour la vie, la routine (ou manque d'une), la nature, le son des oiseaux et le beau temps!
Tu pourrais aussi répondre avec: je vais être une personne plus sage, plus zen, plus en forme (ou peut-être moins en forme); je vais être guitariste/chef, je vais sortir avec beaucoup de belles mémoires, je vais être plus autodidacte, etc.
Peu importe l'élément que tu ressors de cette première question, il y aura tout simplement DEUX types des personnes qui émergeront de cette pandémie:
Des vainqueurs et des victimes
Bref, tout ce que j'essaie de dire c'est le temps, plus que jamais, d'accueillir avec les bras grands ouverts la version naturelle de nous-mêmes. J'espère que beaucoup de femmes vivent cette transition d’adoration de soi-même de façon naturelle (sans maquillage, ongles et teinture!) de façon positive!
Parlant de ça, j'aimerais vous inviter à me partager une photo naturelle de vous-même, où vous mettez en valeur votre "natural glow". Donc une image sans filtre les filles! Voici la mienne!
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If you're like me, social interaction GIVES you energy. You feel replenished and ignited after talking and spending time with people. Whereas, if you are an introvert, you feel totally drained after interacting with others... Provided that you fall into the same category as me, you might be struggling in the "social" department.
An article from the NY Times called: Check on an extrovert today, starts off with this...
"Of course, neither introverts nor extroverts are OK right now. As millions of people face a third month of sheltering at home, it’s become clear that confinement is no paradise even for those who love solitude. "
In these times of adaptations, I have had to find OTHER ways to gain that energy, usually provided by those social interactions, as I can no longer access it from face-face meet ups or conversations (for obvious reasons). Ways I've coped have been through:
- Twitter chats
- Podcasting conversations
- Phone calls
- Virtual suppers and gathering
- Simply walking around in my community and seeing other human beings!
- (& sometimes even just watching videos of crowds - LOL I SWEAR I've done this).
I didn't think I would be getting accustomed to it as well as I have (at one point I honestly didn't know what I was going to do!), however, I obviously often get those urges to just want to reconnect with my friends, family and colleagues. Because... REAL TALK: Facetime-ing/Zoom-ing and/or Google Meet-ing just don't cut it. It's hard to pinpoint exactly what's missing, but it's just not the same. If I to guess.. It would be the actual PEOPLE part of the equation.
All that being said, don't worry, I am taking the necessary precautions, but the cravings are real. I yearn for the day I can share some good laughs with my girlfriends around an actual table in a real restaurant with decent ambiant chatter around us. (IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK!?)
But in all honestly, being an extrovert and all, I sometimes worry about the "new normal" we might have to live in for the next while... Masks, distancing, walking off the side walk to cross someone, no hugs or handshakes... What are us francophones going to do - no more kisses on the cheeks? I try not to put too much attention and energy into this because no one knows what the futur holds. So, I will just leave that thought there... And check in, in about a year.
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BE THE LIGHT IN THE TIME OF DARKNESS
Because I am safe at home, with a happy family, a paying job that I get value from and stable mental health, I have been intentionally making choices to serve others. What does this look like? you might ask. This means, taking time to chat with distant friends over FaceTime, donating items to free groups on Facebook in my community, calling my grandparents more regularly, listening to the cashier express their frustrations...
I feel as though, 73 days in, we have TWO types of people. Those who are thriving and those who are struggling (and then there might be a few in between).
Wether you are a human being that is THRIVING or a human being that is STRUGGLING, every human being deserve GRACE (pandemic or not, honestly!). You never know what others are going through.... I heard some stories on various podcasts I listen to that give me goosebumps. With job losses, hours cut and cases spreading, people are suffering; people are scared and people are reacting. It makes me think of the Tragically Hip song: Scared. So, for all those people who are afraid and anxious, I ask: why NOT be a light for them? and How can you be a light for them?
Maybe it's your neighbour, your aunt, your best friend.... Let's be mindful of their situation, offer help when and where you can add value. More often times than you think, just lending a listening ear can allow them to feel heard and help process what they're going through. You do not need to take on their burdens, but you can let them know that they are not alone.
Anthony ONeal, speaker and financial coach, in one of his LIVE videos said: Speak what you seek. If you want love and kindness to find you, speak it. Make sure your discours reflects your desires. This could be HOPE, POSITIVITY, JOY, ENCOURAGEMENTS, Try it out! I have seen much benefit.
I would love to know: how are YOU serving others? Or, how have OTHERS served you? How have THEY been a light in this time of darkness?
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The blog posts you will read for the next 7 days are truly ideas that have been bouncing around in my head like balls in a Bingo cage for the past 72 days (since March 13th). Sometimes my brain would spit out sentences of how I was feeling OR I heard worthy statements on a live shows or podcasts and would write it down in my notes.
Blogging and podcast has always been an outlet for me. Publicly reflecting and sharing is a powerful tool that I learnt early on in my teaching practice. Although these blogs/podcasts aren not necessarily teaching related, I wanted to share them anyways. We need now, more than ever, to find ways to unload and process our thoughts in order to be able to FEEL them, REFLECT upon them and LIVE them. I choose to blog and podcast instead of masking them with alcool or food consumption, online shopping or being a workaholic.
I also have a desire to contribute and share when I think I can add value to other's lives. So, here's to hoping you find some valuable nuggets of information and inspiration throughout the next 7 days.
I love the fact that I am taking the time to write and produce a podcast creatively and personally. It feels so good. I realized how much I miss it, so, here we go!
everything new is hard.
When Mel Robbins was doing on her daily LIVE videos on Twitter and Instagram, I would watch them religiously. Early on into quarantine she said: "Everything new is hard".
I thought about it for a second, two seconds... three seconds and then told myself, you know what - she is totally right! This is all so new. Not only new to me, but new to everyone in the world. No one else has ever lived through a pandemic... And then something clicked. At that moment, I started to give myself PERMISSION to struggle; to struggle through the new adaptations of work life, through new family life, through the lack of routine and so much more! After I heard those words, it was finally OK to say to myself that I didn't have it all together.
The beauty of hard times (pandemic or not) is that it will make you stronger, a more resilient person. Mel kept explaining that this is a SEASON that will prepare for the next. Always staying present and knowing this is probably one of the most hardest things you will ever go through is almost soothing to hear, because you know you will be free eventually. (This will NOT last forever) And, you can only come out more courageous and tough at the end of it all, right?
Although this "new normal" is hard, is discombobulating, is scary, is frustrating...How you react and adapt to this season, will allow you to build your emotional resilience. You know that ability to stay CALM and POSITIVE in the face of all uncertainty... Yeah, THAT!
A couple tools that Mel Robbins shared throughout these lives events to help you succeed through the HARD time were:
- Recognizing what you can control: thoughts and behaviours. (Let go of everything else!)
- Make a plan (for every day!) to help you stay focused, create a routine and have control of your time!
All that to say: when you're on the rollercoaster, you gotta ride the ups and the down - but ultimately, the rollercoaster is going to end. At this point, we still don’t know when or how much longer we are on it... But it's going to end. And when it’s over, it might not be the same. But it will end.
In the month of October, you may have noticed a lack of @sarahlalondee on your Twitter feeds and even the absence of @sarahannelalonde checking your Snapchat and Instagram stories…
Well, I was a little busy changing my life… You know, undoing bad habits and being more present in my life. That old chestnut!
Matthieu and I completed a social media detox for a month. We made up our own little list of apps we were and were not allowed to visit. After we made this list, we deleted the apps on our phone (because God forbid I would not have enough self-control at the time to not have used them).
Initially, the inspiration came from a Youtuber named: Matt D’avella who accomplished a one month detox from all social media. His video goes in depth into the highs and lows he faced throughout his 31 days.
then (first couple weeks of Oct):
- Repeated thoughts about what was happening on Twitter
- A major FOMO (fear of missing out)
- Been constantly re-searching for the apps on my phone
- Pushing away the desire to re-install them, just for a minute
- A fear of rejection (after not answering my tweets / DM’s / snaps!!)
now (mid-Oct onwards):
- breaking the cycle of opening my phone and going directly to Twitter / Snapchat and Instagram
- I no longer have the NEED to be AS present on social media (for example: checking 67 times a day)
- My phone is not glued to my hand
- My phone is not distracting me from life in front of me
FILLING THE BOREDOM VOID
I even found one of my top podcasts (The Minimalists) mentioning the fact that humans are scared of being bored. In episode 201, they focus on the idea of Slowing Down. It's quite the dilemma.
You can check it out here: https://www.theminimalists.com/podcast/
SOCIAL MEDIA DETOX - STUDENT version
This was not a project. It was not graded. It was a simple and fun challenge I wanted to put them through in order for them to grow. 8/11 students decided to cut out all social media from their lives for FIVE FULL DAYS. (Yes, that means no TIK TOKS!)
- I want to be more intentional with my social media use.
- I have no need for Instagram, as it does not necessarily bring value in my life.
- I still enjoy using Snapchat to communicate the best with some of my friends, but do not allow myself to check the stories.
- I wanted to keep Twitter because of a few reasons: the sense of belonging I feel, the desire to contribute to the space and other educators, seeing Tweets ignite me... but I do need to cut back.
- I now have the self-control to have these apps on my phone and USE them intentionally.
- I am beginning the book: Digital Minimalist to dive even deeper into this concept!
- Reflecting on the process is KEY 🔑
New Digital Minimalist Apprentice
What were some of the advantages of detox present in the video?
Some of the advantages was , you have more time in your day, you have more time to do the thing that you love to do like for my it was having more time to read a book and do my chores ar home.
Some of the detox presented in the video is your mind jet to relax more like the video sade if somebody post on social media you are not going to see if they're a school event you will not miss out.
Sleeping and cooking.
Some good things about the detox is that you focus more on yourself and you think about everything thats been going on. You also will plan out ur next day if you have nothing or plan what ur gonna wear for the next day. To add, its a good way to get things done and go to bed early.
Would you consider doing detox for longer?
What my students are saying?
Yes I would consider doing this for longer because I have more time for my self and have more time in my days.
Yes, I would do the detox for langer because I read a book in a sad of going on my social media.
Non because I just what to go on Tiktok and it fell like it was not 4 day it fell like more.
What have you learned about yourself this week?
Well two thing I have learned about my self is that I like reading book, I like thinking about my emotion and juste about life where am I can be when I grow up I'm going to college or travel the world with my 3 Best friends.
I have learned about myself this week is that I dot social media to occupy myself.
I learned that I can not live without Tiktok.
I have learned that i can not go without social media or my phone because its one of the most important things that i have and i need it all the time. Also if i cant comunicate with my friends and family then i will go nuts.
Day 4: j’ai faite beaucoup de travail aujourd’hui car je na pas de notifications de mes app mais je regarde beaucoup mon netflix et youtube
Was Day 3 harder or easier than the the past two days without social media? Explain why you think that.
Day 3 was harder, because I was thinking to go on Snapchat, Tik Tok and pinterest, but most of all it was pinterest.
It's really harder I find the time really long at school and at home.
Have you had a moment of weakness? If so, why? If not, why not?
Yes a have because Im always on Tiktok so I find the time long but I go on youtube instead.
It's Is very good I do not faidite tempting for me and I just feel relaxse and I am reely fun for me and I feely mor prodoctife and I do more ting And the app that is youtub
How are you using your time differently without social media?
I am using more youtube, netflix, reading book I am reading Girl, stop apologizing and doing my chores at home like my laundry, cleaning my room and ect...
Well am using youtube and I watch dance videos, and I do a slide for my friend to know if they really knows me, I'm playing outside with Stella and William, I'm going to watch William's hockey game.
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